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    Experienced Heartbreak? The 5 Stages of Abandonment

    Story Source One night Susan Anderson’s significant other, the love of her life, told her that he didn’t love her anymore — and he was leaving. “It came as a complete shock,” Anderson writes in The Abandonment Recovery Workbook. “We had been madly in love, deeply connected through our mutual love of nature, art, music, […]

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    Book Review: The Genogram Casebook

    Story Source We are social creatures. Perhaps more than anything, our relationships with our family members and friends define us. Healthy relationships bolster us and help us act confidently in our communities; estranged or conflicted relationships undermine our sense of wellbeing and send ripples through our engagement with others. The consequences of a damaged relationship […]

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    The Reality of Broken Heart Syndrome

    Story Source “She died from a broken heart.” Is that really possible? Many of us will likely experience what we call a broken heart at some point in our lives, but can you really die from an emotionally stressful event such as the death of a loved one? Apparently you can. In fact, broken heart […]

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    Book Review: A Loving Divorce

    Story Source When a couple says, “I do,” those two simple words are filled with hope, love, and devotion. There is a sense of permanency, of stability, of forever. And yet we are repeatedly faced with sobering statistics. Half of all US marriages end in divorce. The average length of these marriages is eight years […]

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    Book Review: The Lies We Tell Ourselves

    Story Source While writers such as Dan Ariely and Robert Trivers have explored the topic of self-deception from the perspectives of behavioral economics and evolutionary biology, the question we may often find ourselves asking is, just how do we stop lying to ourselves? In his new book, The Lies We Tell Ourselves: How to Face […]

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    Codependency is Based on Fake Facts

    Story Source Codependency is based on a lie. Its symptoms develop to cope with the deep, but false and painful belief — that “I’m not worthy of love and respect.” In the chart to the left, core symptoms of codependency are in red, but nearly all the symptoms revolve around shame – the shame that […]

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    Why You Should Stop Being a Good Person

    Story Source “You’re such a good boy, Daniel.” “Sarah, that was a nice thing you did. You’re a sweetheart.” Did you hear phrases like this when you were younger? If you’re a parent, have you said something similar to your child? This form of praising starts in early childhood. Our parents, family members, and teachers […]

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    10 Proactive Ways to Figure Out What’s Most Important to You

    Story Source Life offers infinite variety, along with myriad challenges and opportunities. It’s easy to get lost in indecision with so many choices. You want success, yet wonder if you’re on the right path. You’d like to have balance in your life, but there are so many conflicts that you often find yourself spending energy […]

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    Codependency Causes Anger and Resentment: 8 Tips on Anger Management

    Story Source Managing anger is essential to success in work and relationships. Codependents have a lot of anger they don’t know how to manage it effectively. They’re frequently partner with people who contribute less than they do, who break promises and commitments, violate their boundaries, or disappointment or betray them. Symptoms of codependency, such as denial, […]

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    The Attractor Factor: Why We Flirt and What It Means

    Story Source Imagine this scene: two people walk into a room and immediately notice each other (cue the romantic music). They hesitantly take a few steps forward, smiling shyly. One runs fingers through tousled hair, while the other straightens a piece of clothing. One laughs nervously while the other coughs. Once they are within speaking […]

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    Relationship Killers: Anger and Resentment

    Story Source Anger hurts. It’s a reaction to not getting what we want or need. Anger escalates to rage when we feel assaulted or threatened. It could be physical, emotional, or abstract, such as an attack on our reputation. When we react disproportionately to our present circumstance, it’s because we’re really reacting to something in […]