When you have been talking to someone online for a time you both may decide to take the next step with a real life date. Online dating can be very beneficial but without a good connection in real life, you cannot move onto something more with long lasting potential.
Many people are concerned about moving from online dating to dating in real life. It can potentially be very dangerous and online daters also need to worry about the other person not being honest about them. Once you have decided to take the necessary precautions and you feel very secure, your friends and family know where you are, you may be ready to simply give it a shot.
Initially it is a good idea to plan a first date that will take place in a very public setting. It is easy to lie online and you do not want to find yourself to be a victim of an online predator. To be safe, you need to suggest meeting at the place of the date instead of getting into a vehicle with someone you do not know. Plan a date for the daytime and it is usually a good idea to have very little alcohol involved. If you are still not sure about meeting for security reasons, you should suggest a group date where each of you brings a few friends.
The first date with an online friend can be nerve racking so you have to be sure to get the other person excited about meeting you. In the dating world, you will experience many failures but it is possible to have a good and true relationship if you try hard and make a good first impression.
There are a number of good date ideas that you can use for your first date. The typical plans are to have a meal at a good restaurant or go to the movies. However when you are eating or watching a film it is difficult to get to now another person, so it may be better to suggest a date based on common interests, the one’s that attracted you to the other person in the first place. For example if you both enjoy sports, you can go to a baseball game or go golfing. If you like outdoor adventures you can plan a first date at a rock-climbing place, or adventure park (might want to stay away from deep hikes into the woods at the start). For more quiet dates, you can meet at a cafe or visit a bookstore.
The most important thing to remember about a date is to make sure that each person is comfortable. If you are both having a bad time and it is obvious, it is not inappropriate to suggest leaving early, keep it real, be polite and bounce. However if you both are having a great time, you may want to extend the date to another activity after the first date has ended, always leave them wanting more at the beginning.
Most importantly give you and your date a break, not everybody will have a connection, so just enjoy meeting new people. Be happy with yourself and if you hook up with a dud, try to make them laugh or feel good about themselves, this is a reflection of the amazing person that you are.