You hear it all the time, “success is a state of mind.” There are people, who would argue that success is a natural result of proper planning, preparation and focused action, and that viewpoint certainly holds a grain of truth, but there are also many exceptions to disprove that “rule.” Have you ever wondered how two people can attempt the same objective in the same way and only one of them succeed? Is it sheer luck? Timing? Tenacity? More often than not, it’s a person’s mind-set that determines whether they fail or succeed.
What is a mind-set?
Typically a mind-set refers to your predominant state of mind day to day. It’s what you think about, focus on, and expect from your daily experiences. Think negatively, expect the worst, feel pessimistic about your options and that’s exactly what you’ll seem to draw into your life. Likewise, think positively, expect the best and focus on a successful outcome and you get it most of the time.
Makes sense, right? But, how exactly does this work? Why is a success mind-set so important? There are three big reasons:
1) A success mind-set boosts your confidence and self-belief.
A lack of belief in yourself usually comes along with a sense of powerlessness and futility, which is the exact opposite of a success mind-set. Lack of confidence means you see no point in trying to be successful because it won’t happen anyway. Obviously, this type of mind-set is a recipe for failure in any endeavor.
Having a true success mind-set, on the other hand, means you believe in yourself and your capabilities. You believe you can succeed at nearly anything you try, and you’re willing to give it your best shot. Even better, the more you do try, the more confidence and self-belief you build, until you’re virtually unstoppable!
2) A success mind-set strengthens your determination.
Without a success mind-set, one failure is enough to convince you that pursuing your goals is a waste of time. Tenacity and determination don’t exist in your world. If you don’t become a raging success the first time you try, you surmise that it simply wasn’t meant to be. Unfortunately, few things worth having are obtained so easily!
A success mind-set, however, strengthens your awareness that a failure is not the end of the story, it’s just one more way that didn’t work out the way you planned. In fact, a true success mind-set makes it obvious that the only true failure occurs when you stop trying.
3) A success mind-set encourages fruitful actions.
Have you ever found yourself wandering in circles because you didn’t know the best way to approach a specific goal? Perhaps you had an idea of the best course of action but you felt intimidated by some of the action steps required. As a result, you may have kept sabotaging your efforts as you searched in vain for an easier or less frightening way to your goal.
With a true success mind-set, you’ll always know the most effective action steps that will lead directly to your goal. As already discussed, you’ll also have the inner confidence and determination to pursue them, which is a sure recipe for… you guessed it; SUCCESS!
Start With a Personal Growth Checklist
Have you done a personal growth checklist on your life lately? Many goals are never reached due to lack of self-assessments. It is frightening and overwhelming to sit down and have to face yourself. Yet, in order for personal development to happen, it is exactly what you must do.
Get yourself a small notebook to be used for all thoughts concerning you. Inside these pages you will keep notes, to-do lists, inspirations and basically, everything about you. When you put yourself on paper consistently, it becomes a life management bible.
Seeing who we are in written form is a magic ingredient for personal growth, there is value contained here about your purpose in life. By privately writing down your daily to-do’s, aspirations, or even a 5-year plan, these pages outline where your life is going. Where your life has been. The notebook becomes your intimate novel to personal development growth. It helps you become self-aware of your behaviors and habits; it puts your dreams right in front of your face, and encourages self-actualization.
No matter how terrifying the pen gets, you have opportunity to change your life on the very next page.
Improving personal development growth involves mastering the pages you’ve written about yourself and having the courage and dedication to write new pages that re-invent yourself and change your circumstances. The real change comes through doing a consistent assessment of your life, and bravely finding new ways to approach setbacks, questions about who you are and where you are going are constant within these pages.
You are now making yourself accountable for your life by writing everything down. It is easier to take personal responsibility for what happens to you if you acknowledge it with a pen. You cannot grow if you do not know. So much happens to us in the course of a day and can easily be missed as an opportunity for growth.
By keeping notes, it can be measured and evaluated. Days can melt into months, and years, leaving us in the exact same spot as we began. And then the moment comes where we wonder why our life didn’t turn out the way we planned. It is because time moves forward, and so should we.
Consider this self-bible your life instructions. Critique yourself honestly, and applaud the little successes you see, because had you not wrote them down you probably would have missed them entirely.
Life is a continual process of renewal and opportunity. To measure your personal development growth, look back on the pages of yesterday and see if you have climbed ladders or fell steps down, what can be learned?
What is within your power to change? How will you recreate yourself in small ways tomorrow? Even one step different than the one before begins a new path. By writing all of you down on paper you have made yourself aware of you. Awareness acknowledges our existence in this world.
An added bonus to purging your thoughts on paper is the release. What is inside you should come out to keep a healthy mind and attitude. This is why journals exist, this is a reason people have day planners and diaries. Humans can take in so much information daily, and then swirl it around into a feeling or opinion, even a stressor.
It is imperative to good mental health to decompress and release all the impacts of the day somewhere else, preferably to paper and not another person.
A simple how to develop a success mind-set in as few words as possible:
- Go for your dreams.
- Think positively.
- Believe in yourself.
- Believe you can do better.
- Learn, grow and develop yourself.
- Be willing to take chances.
- Give it your all.
- Expect the best in every situation.
- Be willing to fail.
- When you fall down, get back up and try again.
Encourage good things to happen in your life. Help the process through timely self-assessments. Re-invent yourself through writing. Face the written words and change them.
Keep doing that and you can’t help but become successful, from the inside out.